Having been “on the market” for a quite a while now, I tried slowly getting back into the dating game. You might think to yourself “Aww, good for you girl, dating is fun!” … but is it really? I’ve been on a couple of dates because I thought my flirting skills were a little rusty and I needed some practice before I actually meet my real Prince Charming haha, jk, jk…F*ck that shit. However, if we look at things on the bright side, at least now I know what are my top 6 biggest turn offs on a first date and I will be more than glad to share my experiences with you guys. (Please note that this blog post is based on my true story).
1. Being Late
I believe in gender equality so I always suggest that I go pick up the guy on the first date. Sometimes, they say yes and sometimes, they decline the offer. However, there was this particular guy who asked me to pick him up saying he was ready and let me wait 20 minutes in his driveway before he showed up. Not only he wasn’t sorry for being late, but he had the audacity to light up a smoke in front of my car (I didn’t even know he smoked) and take a 5 minutes’ break before the date even started. (Like bish, what do you need a break from already?)
2. Checking Your Phone Way Too Much
If you feel the need to be on your phone the whole time, I’d think you find me boring or you have much better things to do than being out with me. Long story short, the same guy who made me wait 20 minutes in his driveway took out his phone as soon he entered my car and called one of his friends. Rudeeee! They talked for about 5 minutes and wanted me to drop him off quickly at his friend’s place because “he had something to do” … I was like “Nah bish, do I look like your Uber driver?” (I didn’t really say that but I thought about it). You might think “Okay, it’s bad but not too bad”, but wait! Once we got to the restaurant, it got even worse. He took out 2 phones from his pockets and put them both on the table in front of us. 2 PHONES!!! One for the plug and one for the load? … Suspicious.
3. Being Cocky And Bragging About Yourself
When a guy is confident, women find it attractive. When a guy is cocky and think he’s the shit, it can’t be more of a turn off to us. You don’t have to put yourself on a pedestal to impress a woman. If your dad owns a restaurant, good for you but it doesn’t mean you’re the son of God and you can belittle everyone around you. If you can afford to buy Rolex watches and high brand clothes, it’s also good for you but don’t judge other people because they can’t afford it and don’t think you’re smarter than everyone because you dress like a “boss”. Guys, be yourselves please. Nothing will be more attractive to us than a man who is humble and doesn't try to act like someone he is not.
4. Over-drinking
When a girl says “Let’s go out for a drink” on a Thursday night when she has work the next morning, she probably actually means one drink. If you order 3 bottles without even consulting her and you are only 2 people, chances are she will think you’re an alcoholic or that you’re trying to get her super drunk to maybe take advantage of her. TURN F*CKING OFF! Do you want to know what’s even worse? When you try to make her pay for two of the bottles YOU ORDERED WITHOUT HER APPROVAL and she only had a glass and a half of wine. Don’t be that guy!
5. Smoke breaks
If you’re on a date and you end up going out for a 10 minutes’ smoke break every half an hour, I think you need to learn a little bit about self-control. It’s really hard to get to know someone when they’re not there half of the time. If the other person doesn’t smoke, try to go only once or just try not to go out for a smoke at all on the first date. After all, first dates usually don't last more than two or three hours.
6. Having nothing in common
Spending 2 hours trying to get to know someone you have nothing in common with can be very awkward. You try to look interested in what your date is talking about but you just can’t relate to any of it. This is not necessarily anyone’s fault but it just makes the date boring and weird especially when you don’t agree with the other person's opinions on many different topics.
I’d like to finish off by saying that it is okay to tell the other person that you are not feeling comfortable with them and that you wish to leave. Don’t be afraid of their reaction. If you’re not feeling like you’re being treated with respect, you have the right to end a date. You should feel like the other person is treating you the way you deserve to be treated. Whether you’re a man or a woman, do not settle for less than what you deserve. Keep your standards high and never lose hope!
“On first dates, always eat at your favorite restaurant, because if the date goes bad, at least you got a good meal”
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