How many of you have had the urge to take out your phones while waiting for the bus? How many of you feel lonely when you are not logged in to your social media accounts? How many of you freak out when you don’t have access to your mobile device? I bet a lot of you do.
We’re so used to be surrounded by people all the time, whether be virtually or physically, that we can’t stand being alone anymore. Being alone makes us feel anxious and uneasy. We’re scared to miss out on life when we’re not connected, but what we don’t realize is that we are actually missing out on it because we are so connected. For example, we think it would be awkward if we went for dinner on our own, simply because we care a little too much about what people think about us and the picture we give.
Have you ever taken yourself out on a date? I have and pretty recently. To be honest, it was a really great experience. I got to enjoy a chocolate and strawberry crêpe for breakfast at a local restaurant. I was sitting at a table for two. There, I took my time examining people around me, their actions, the way they talked, really their every move (it wasn’t in a creepy way, I promise). I also started thinking about what I want to do with my life, I tried getting to know myself better. Honestly, ever since I started going out by myself I started getting a boost of confidence. It really helps with your self-image. Now, in fact, I don’t get that uneasy feeling when I go out alone. Actually, contrary to that, I feel independent. I don’t absolutely need to go out with people anymore. If I want to do something I just go out by myself. It’s a great feeling.
One of the reasons I decided to go on my own was because I feel like we don’t need to deprive ourselves from doing the things we want to do because our friends are busy or they don’t want to do a certain activity that we are interested in. I learned my lesson a while ago when I invested everything I had into a friendship that quickly ended after 7 years. I deprived myself from doing some things I wanted to do simply because my friend wasn’t allowed to do those things at the time.
Once you learn how to be alone, being around people won’t be your escape from reality anymore. You will just feel more comfortable with yourself and being with your friends will just be more enjoyable since you won’t be depending on them all the time.
To sum it all up, remember that it is totally fine to do things on your own and that it will help you grow and become a more confident person. It will also help you learn new things about yourself which could lead some new opportunities to find their way into your life.
« Be alone. Eat alone, take yourself on dates, sleep alone. In the midst of this you will learn about yourself. You will grow, you will figure out what inspires you, you will curate your own dreams, your own beliefs, your own stunning clarity, and when you meet the person who makes your cells dance, you will be sure of it because you are sure of yourself. »
Here is a list of some activities you can do by yourself:
Go out for breakfast or dinner
Sign up for a sports class (yoga, kickboxing, dancing)
Take a walk
Go shopping
Visit a museum
Go for an adventure
Have a spa day
Try to learn a new language
Take a vacation on your own
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